This weekend was one of the best Ben and I have experienced this summer. We went out East with a few of our closest friends and enjoyed all sorts of traditional Hamptons activities—from relaxing near the pool and biking around the village to hitting fancy parties and going out for dinner. While it was a marvelous experience that we’ll all remember forever (I mean, how could you possibly forget hiding under the table when you’re sitting outside and the rain hits you in the middle of dinner?), it had a bittersweet taste: it was the last time we’d be able to go out with our beloved friends before they move to Europe. What can I say? Sometimes life takes you to the other side of the globe, but you have to try your best to keep relationships alive.
Staying in touch with friends from all the countries I’ve lived in over the course of my life has never been easy for me. I never burned my bridges while taking just another exciting opportunity to explore a new city or even a country. However, I find it difficult to stay connected when you don’t share everyday experiences with your friends. I don’t know why, but in person, being able to say “hello” and exchange accidental gossip help to keep relationships more alive than any technology could possibly guarantee.
I do check the Facebook statuses of all my Russian and Belarusian friends often and I have a general understanding of what is happening in their lives, but this kind of one-way interaction where they share bits and pieces of their lives on social media and I check them out just doesn’t do… Judging by the number of my friends on Facebook, I should be surrounded by so many people from across the globe. But do I regularly chat with them and know what they’re really up to? Unfortunately, no.
I do manage to stay in touch with a few of my friends, and most of them stay connected because of all the fun experience we’ve had together. Every time I visit my friend Alla, we recall the time we lived in one dormitory room with five other people (we shared a place for a short period of time, but it was tough!). My friend Jane and I recall one of the first weekends when my parents allowed me to travel on my own, so we spent almost a week exploring some of the most scenic places in Belarus. I don’t know about you guys, but shared experiences help me connect with people I respect and genuinely care for.
With this in mind, Ben and I wanted to make sure that our last weekend in the Hamptons with our friends was very memorable. While we didn’t do anything out of this world, we did spend time recalling all the fun experiences we’ve had together—starting with skydiving a few weeks after we met to being stopped by a corrupt police officer in Nicaragua. Without doubt, those memories will always remain in our memories, even when our friends are far away.
It’s hard to keep relationships alive, especially as you get older and you don’t live next door or even in the next city. I guess it’s one of the things I’m planning on learning in life. Maturing means getting your priorities in place, and I’m definitely on the path of preserving relationships with all the people who bring joy to my life.
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